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Thursday, February 28, 2013

Does racism still exist in our day and age?

One of the most intriguing topics my students and I sometimes broach is that of racism and in particular whether it exists today or not. It's a touchy subject, because there are so many varying perspectives and of course no simple answers. 

I recently watched a video of Tim Wise, anti-racism activist. It's a long video (the lecture itself is 1 hour and 17 minutes). But I think it's worth the time just for the fact that it makes you think and try to perceive the topic in a different manner. I always try to keep an open mind when it comes to touchy subjects, and whether I agree with the points brought forth, I value the chance to see things from another's perspective.



Two things I found interesting about his lecture and that I could relate to...

First, Wise talks about stereotypes, and how what one person of a certain ethnicity does or says seems to reflect upon all others in that same ethnicity. In other words, it's a sweeping label applied to all minorities based on the actions of one person in that group. But Wise says the same does not usually apply to whites.

I remember when a Hmong hunter named Chai Vang killed some white hunters in 2004 in Wisconsin.. oh, the fear of repercussion in the Hmong community after that situation. I know many Hmong hunters who questioned whether they should hunt anymore; some stopped altogether. And then shortly after, a Hmong hunter was killed by a white hunter, some say in retaliation for the Chai Vang case.

I have often wondered that if Chai Vang represents all Hmong, then can Jeffrey Dahmer (a killer, cannibal, and necrophiliac) represent all white people? No, of course not. That's just ridiculous. But that is exactly Wise's point.

Secondly, along the same vein, there is also the archetype, which Wise says is when a person is pigeon-holed and expected to fit the mold for his or her ethnicity based on what society deems acceptable. And when a person strays from that, it can be confusing for others to place them categorically.

When I heard what Wise says around the 50 minute mark of his lecture, I had to chuckle a little because he's basically describing me. I'm an Asian-American whose specialty is English, and yes, I have been questioned many times on what I'm doing in the English field (I guess I'm supposed to be a math or chemistry nerd instead of a literature nerd). When I still taught high school, I remember a father of one of my students came in for parent-teacher conferences and the first thing he said to me was, "My daughter's in a regular English class, right? I mean, this isn't like an ESL class or anything, is it?" I knew he was asking, because he didn't think an Asian-American person, such as myself, could possibly understand English enough to teach it.

And yet another one has said to me, "Wow, you can actually speak English fluently! Not even an accent. Good for you!" *pat on the back* I've also been told, even by other teachers, that I should really go into teaching ESL or English as a Second Language classes instead, because... well, I would do more good there, which could be true, but I love teaching English at the higher levels. That is, after all, where my passion lies, being able to delve deeper into literature, reading, and writing.

Now to be fair, I'm also questioned by people of my own ethnicity. You see, stereotypes and archetypes exist within ethnicities among ourselves too. Hmong females, if they go into teaching, almost always choose the Elementary Ed level. I can't count how many times I've been questioned by Hmong people as to why in the world I decided to teach high school, and now that I'm teaching college, still the same questions. I don't fit the typical Hmong female archetype according to some in the Hmong community, and I don't fit the typical Asian archetype according to some in the white society. I guess I just am who I am, and I follow what my heart tells me to do. I don't take it personally though, as most people who question me don't do it in a rude or offensive way. They are simply curious or surprised. I'm always willing to explain, and it is of course an opportunity to discuss and expand the ways of thinking.

Wise doesn't really touch upon this as his area of expertise is in race relations, but there are so many different kinds of stereotypes and archetypes, and many of them apply to white people too. A person's body or size, for example. Usually, after people are done asking me about my choice as a Hmong person teaching English, their next question pertains to my size. I'm a small person at 5 ft and 105 pounds. Most people are curious as to how I can possibly handle a 6 ft, 200 pound student who misbehaves in my classroom. The answer is simple: there is no correlation between a teacher's physical size and his or her ability to effectively manage a classroom. Even though I'm a petite person, I have hardly ever had classroom management issues. It comes down to what your rules and expectations are in your classroom and whether you consistently adhere to them or not. My size has nothing to do with it.

So yes, of course racism, stereotypes, and archetypes exist today and in so many forms, big and small. We've made progress though. But Wise asserts in his lecture that in about 50 years, half of the U.S. population will consist of minorities. What does that mean for our nation, and how will that affect race relations? It'll be interesting to see the shift in demographics in this nation and how that's all going to play out.

There's a lot more about racism in Wise's lecture, but this has been a very long blog post already so I will stop here. When you find the time, I encourage you to watch the video and let me know what you think.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Goal-Making

Goals for me are the foundation of life. They are the structure on which I build my family, friends, education, and profession. Everything I do, I try to ensure it revolves around my goals. That's how I know if I'm on the right path.

If you're struggling in life, remember this: as long as you have goals, you can endure the most difficult of situations, even the most torturous.

Goals need to be written down, not just thought of. They need to be revised from time to time. They need to be exact and specific. They need to have a time line. Goals need to be visible to you as a reminder, so put them in a location you will always see. Revisit them from time to time.

Without goals, you lose your purpose, and breathing becomes hard.

That's how important goals are. They are your breath. Don't underestimate them.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Dear Friend...

Dear friend who I've known for nearly half of my life,

Remember those books? I still read them from time to time. I still think about you from time to time. Just wondering how you're doing. What you're up to. Why we don't talk anymore. Whether you have done that thing that you said you might do someday.

I learned a lot from you. About philosophy. Politics. Religion. People. Life.

It was you who sparked that drive in me to question things, to see the world differently, to always be searching for answers to questions that even others may shun me for thinking about.

It was that one book you sent me that changed my life. M. Scott Peck. Did you know that? Back then, I was at a turning point in my life. A choice I had to make. I picked up that book and read it over and over. I marked it up, put sticky notes on copious pages. You should see it... lol. I still have all those sticky notes in there.

Then I thought real hard about life...about my life. And I finally realized how good I had it. I didn't just realize it, I knew it. I felt it deep in my gut. How good I had it and how good I still have it to this day. I have been blessed. See, even today, even though we haven't had any connections in so long, you still impact me.

I was young back then. You knew more of life and of the world and of how it works. I didn't fully realize it then, but I know now that it was because of the hardships and struggles you've dealt with that enabled you to have that deeper understanding of the world and of people.

The knowledge that you gained from your life you passed on to me.

And because of that, I'm a happier person. I'm more free. I'm content. I know what's real and what's not.

Thank you.

I hope you read this, and I hope you see that you've made a difference.

I hope you're happy too. I hope you've found the courage. I really do.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

2013 To Do List

Two things.

There are really only two things on my to-do list for this new year, but they encompass a lot.

1) Do more, see more, be more.

This includes traveling. I will be going to Japan this summer. I also have some camping in Wisconsin's popular Door County as well as a getaway trip planned for the Upper Peninsula.

I want to get more fit, and by this, I mean toning up my body. Riding my bike more. Jogging more. Back to lifting weights. Participate in more run-a-thons and obstacle courses. Maybe, just maybe, do Tough Mudder.

I want to continue furthering my education. Progress through with my MBA degree and maybe reach the halfway point by the end of the year.

So yes, all in all, do more, see more, be more!

I have one wish though in regards to this goal of mine. And it is a wish for my friends and family to share in this mentality. I feel like my husband and I are always wanting to experience things, whether it be concerts, camping, skydiving, vacations, etc. But most of the time, we end up doing those things together, just us...because everyone else always says "no" for a host of reasons.

I love it that my husband is as adventurous and willing to embrace new experiences as I am, but sometimes it would be nice to share in those memories with lots of others too. The way I see it, whether I really like something or not, I just want to EXPERIENCE it...at least ONCE in this lifetime.

Do you know what I mean?

Just say YES to doing more, YES to new experiences. I want to pull others into being excited about experiencing life too.

2) Separate work from home better.

This has to do with my family, particularly my three girls. I'm a work-a-holic. I admit it... I'm a big work-a-holic. And since I work from home too, it is very hard for me to separate my work life from my home life. Work can consume my time during the day just as much as it does in the evenings and at night. I need to stop working once the kids are home from school. I have to tell myself that more.

Stop. Put away work.

And be firm. Have set hours for work and be strict about sticking to it. My girls deserve it.

So there you have it. The two things on my to-do list. Cheers to that!!!

What's on your list?

Friday, December 14, 2012

Connecticut Elementary School Shooting

I just read in the news today about one of my biggest fears--the school shooting in Connecticut.  :(

I can't fathom why someone would want to walk into a school and shoot anyone, especially innocent children.

As a parent, it is my biggest fear. You send your children to school everyday thinking they'll be safe and that they'll return to you at the end of the day. But that may not always be the case.

And as an educator, you train for the possibility of such horrible events. You go through your day teaching kids, always with the thought that something like that could happen at any moment, but yet you don't believe it'll ever happen... not in your school, not to your class, not to the students who are akin to being your own children.

I'm thinking back to the days of my high school teaching experience and reliving those few times when we had serious school lockdowns because of various situations happening in or around the school... and the fear and confusion of not knowing what was happening and why we were sitting in the dark, huddled together, with the door locked. Thankfully all of those situations never turned into anything terrible, and we were able to move on with our daily schedule soon after.

What I felt then during those times and what the teachers, students, and community in that Connecticut town must be feeling... tenfold.

My prayers and condolences to them.

I'm confused. I'm saddened.

All I know right now is that I must do what I can everyday and hope that I make a difference in the lives of my kids and my students... and that someday they'll grow up to make right choices.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Gratitude and a Happy Thanksgiving


I'm grateful for the ability to think, the passion to keep on learning, and the skills to teach what I learn to others. Life would be mighty boring, if I could not do that everyday.

I’m also grateful for being here in America where hard work pays off. I look at my parents, and I'm reminded of how they came to this country as refugees with nothing but hopes and dreams. I'm thankful for the hard work they put in to raise my 8 siblings and me and to give us the chance to fulfill those hopes and dreams.

And last but not least, I’m thankful for my beautiful, healthy family:
-       my husband, who is so kind, affectionate, and young at heart
-       my oldest daughter, who is so smart, caring, and full of talents she has yet to realize and embrace
-       my middle daughter, who is athletic, talented in writing, and so motherly to her little sister
-       my youngest daughter, whose songs, silliness, and drawings always make our family smile

So much to appreciate.  :)

~ Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours. ~

Updated:
Our Thanksgiving feast...
stuffing, yams, noodles, spring rolls, pepper sauce, mashed potatoes, turkey

one of our two turkeys

green bean casserole and scalloped potatoes

cherry pie, pumpkin pie, apple pie, pumpkin bars

blackberry and blueberry margarita. yum! out for drinks and a movie with my sisters and sister-in-law


Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Election

Yay!

I am happy about Obama's re-election and happy that Elizabeth Warren has won the Senate seat in Massachusetts. She is the greatest, and yes, even though I'm in Wisconsin and obviously she's not my senator, I am still thrilled nonetheless. I love her views and her passion in advocating for consumers and the middle class.

Here in Wisconsin, I'm glad that Tammy Baldwin won for Senate. Wisconsin puzzles me a bit though. Obama took Wisconsin last night, but yet, Republicans have control of state government, and then of course, there's Scott Walker's win in the recall election awhile back. So hmm..... we are obviously a very conflicted and unpredictable state here in Wisconsin.

On another note, seriously, can we get some technology infused into the voting process? It's 2012.

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

More Photos of Fall

I wish I'd gotten out earlier in the season for photos when more leaves were still clinging to branches and when colors were more vibrant. It's already getting late in the autumn season here in Wisconsin... many of the leaves have already journeyed their way down to the ground, faded and turned dry.

By the way, these photos (with the exception of the last three) were taken with my new camera, which I got for my birthday a couple weeks ago. I hope the quality of them is a little better. I'm still learning how to use the camera...